Knowing When to Take A Break
Updated: Nov 13, 2020
I know it's been a while since I've posted anything, but I took a much-needed break to regroup and realign some things in my life! Between working from home, distance learning, keeping 4 kids from going crazy, going through the publishing process, and still working on my other WIPs. I felt like I was literally losing my mind I felt burnt out. I'm sure it's a feeling al of us have every now and again. But knowing when to take a step back before getting to that breaking point is crucial, especially or us writers!
So how do you know when you need a break? Well if you start to feel like you're losing it that's a pretty good sign LOL. But seriously, If you start to feel tired all the time, frustrated easily agitated, or just not like yourself then it's time to take a break.
Now there are different levels of breaks and different kinds of breaks. Most of the time I take breaks from social media if I feel overwhelmed by my timelines. Some days I take a brief break from my house by running to the store. Every now and again I need a full-fledged break from reality, this is normally when things get really really tough. This last one is vacation type of break.
Some may be asking why do we need breaks, well the answer is simple: to keep your sanity. In this age of working from home, distance learning, COVID-19, and social distancing it's really easy to feel overwhelmed really quickly. I know personally being under say at home order with my husband kids pushed the limits of my patience some days not saying I don't love them, but having our "you" time is vital to your mental health.
How does taking a break affect your creative juices? I personally think it cultivates and nourishes them. We all put ourselves under deadlines and time constraints when in all reality we need to let our stories develop on their own, no matter how long they take. When we le the creative forces ave their way under heir own time frame that's when we get the amazing stories that we look back at like WOW I WROTE THAT!
Now onto another subject that has really been affecting me lately. I'm putting this disclaimer out there now: I am going to talk about the Black Lives Matter movement and Breonna Taylor. If you don't like those subjects you are free to stop reading.
We all good? Great! Now as a Black woman, married to a Black man, with 4 beautiful Black children I have to say the state of our country scares the hell out of me. I shouldn't have to be fearful every time my husband leaves the house because he might not come home. I shouldn't have to explain to my 10 and 8-year-old daughters why someone called them monkeys and told them to et out of their country when we are at the store. I shouldn't have to have a conversation with my children about the fact that some people hate them just becue of the color of their skin and hold my oldest daughter while she cries. I should NOT have to live in fear in my own house because I know that if the police bust in they almost have the right to do whatever and get away with it. Why do I feel this way? George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Trayvon Martin, Atatianna Jefferson, Philando Castille, Freddie Gray, just to name a few. Black men, women, and children whose lives were wrongfully ended and NO justice has been served for ANY of them. Not a single shred of actual justice. I hit my boiling point yesterday when none of the men that killed Breonna Taylor were charged with her murder, only one was charged with wanton endangerment for firing rounds into her neighbors' apartments. This shows me that the threat to her neighbors' lives meant more than her actual life. We need change and we need it now! This country will NEVER be great until a black person's life is valued as much as their white counterparts.
If you choose to come at me with the All Lives Matter argument then you can exit stage left.
Until next time beautiful people!